The Big Three-Oh

Isn’t it funny the crazy amount of choices that we’re presented with each day and how they, together, form a path?  It can be overwhelming if you really think about it, but today, on my thirtieth birthday, I’m breaking free.

All my life, for the last thirty years, I’ve made choices that I thought would to take me in the right direction.  But what was the right direction?  Growing up, it was the opinion of my parents. In school the right direction could have guided by a professor, and in the workforce, the opinion of an HR team, a boss, or a colleague. I never felt that those directions were 100% me, and guess what?  I’ve ended up on paths that have been walked by thousands before me.

It’s really taken the past ten years to gain insight on what I want and where I want to go.  I don’t want to follow in someone else’s footsteps because I can’t shine.  I need my own way, my own path. I don’t 100% know what that entails, but that is the amazing part.  There is nobody to tell me what the next step is, because no one else has been there. There is freedom in not knowing what I should do next because that page hasn’t been written, and it’s all up to me.

I’m so so blessed to have my husband as my primary support.  He never tells me that something isn’t possible, or shouldn’t be done.  He’s a dreamer and a thinker like I am.  I know he supports a ‘no plan plan’ and gets as excited about life’s endless opportunities as I do. I’m going to take the next decade to dig this path out with him by my side.  I do have some specific goals in the next ten years, however, I’d be aimless if I didn’t!

The Big Ones:

1. Work for myself

2. Live Internationally for at least a year

3. Build a house on the land we bought (already)

I have a ton of little ones that are a little more ‘everyday’… things like washing my face before bed and maintaining my weight, but those are always on my list of things to strive for. Overall, I’m just going to do more of my own thing, and less of other peoples’ things.  That means I cannot compare myself to anyone – because nobody else is on my path! There is a lot of joy in that thought and a lot of happiness in my heart today as I turn my face to my next ten years!



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  1. says

    Happy Birthday Erin! I’m all for the “no plan, plan” For me, I’ve always kinda lived off of the mantra “you only live one life.” I’ve also got 2 lil’ girls that look up to me, so I want them to grow up with the belief that anything is possible =) I have no doubt that all your goals will come to fruition! Cheers!!

  2. says

    Happy 30th birthday!!! Such a sweet and inspirational post…I know you will achieve all these goals and more…and you have a fresh new beautiful haircut to take you there too!!

  3. Sara says

    Happy Birthday Erin!! I actually woke up this morning remembering that January 10th was your b-day, funny the things that stick in your head after all these years :) Love this post, and hope it is the start of a great day, year, and decade!

  4. says

    Happy Birthday! I also want to live internationally for at least a year… and wash my face more often at night :) Hope you have a great day and a great year.

  5. says

    happy 30th erin! love the post and the message behind it. i don’t know you personally but your personality and “you-ness” shines through in your blog – keep doing your thing girl! :)

  6. says

    A very thought provoking (and relatable) post! I’ve long struggled with this same confining dilemma and recently came to my own conclusions about how I want to live the next years in my own life in a similar fashion. Love your big goals! Wishing you all the best for a great birthday and what’s to come.

  7. says

    Happy 30th! I love your attitude going into your 30’s — I think these are amazing goals and am completely inspired by willingness to go your own path. Enjoy your day! :)

  8. says

    Happy birthday, Erin! These are great goals. I actually just wrote a blog post about this fear we have about making decisions and choosing a path, even if it means closing the door to others. In any case, it sounds like you’re well on your way to achieving your goals.

  9. says

    Aww, happy 30th birthday to you! I love being in my 30s, that confidence to take on endless opportunities is unstoppable. I love all of those goals, but I think 1 & 2 would be my picks. :) Enjoy your day! xo Jeanne

  10. Mandi says

    I’m emotional reading this. I have the same thoughts as I turned 30 in 2012. I’m glad to see I’m not the only woman who is feeling like breaking out and wanting something more, something different, drastic in a good way. In my life I feel like I have not taken the opportunity to choose and act for myself. Turning 30 was it for me. I needed a change. Looking at life in the way you describe is very empowering, very big, open and I’m still a little scared with all the possibilities. It takes courage and I’m supporting you and the other women who want to live this kind of life!

  11. Cindi says

    I very much enjoyed reading this post, you are so talented and will meet and make each one of your goals. It even gives me some ideas at 55! Enjoy your day!

  12. says

    Happy Birthday! Am a big fan of your place in the blog world. And this post was so well said – I wish I were as charming and smart when I was 30!

  13. says

    i saw on alexa’s blog the short and sweet of it that your birthday was yesterday, mine too as well as alexa’s, birthday twinsies!! except for different ages that it :-) hope you had a great 30th birthday

  14. Colleen says

    So in love with this post!! How liberating to stop the comparisons and just take life day by day with your goals and your own personal path in mind! I love you and I hope your birthday was awesome! I also love your lob!

  15. says

    I’m on the same wavelength as you! And Mandi above it seems! I turn 30 at the end of this year and have a five year plan not too dissimilar to yours. I want to move to Australia or New Zealand (well, preferably Aus but I’ll take NZ for two years first). I want to work for myself and actually make money. And I want to (finally!) get married to my sweetheart of nearly 11 years!
    There seems to be a lot of positivity around the web at the moment, even I managed to blog in a super positive post about it a few days ago! I’m super excited about 2013, hurray for turning 30 ladies!

  16. says


    Just found your blog through Emily from Cupcakes and Cashmere, so super glad I found it! You are wonderfully talented and I love your aesthetic! Thankyou so much for this post, I’m in the middle of really trying to figure out what I want to do in life, and not what is expected of me, so this really hit home with me and inspires me to go for my own goals! Thanks so much, I hope youre having a lovely day! :) xx

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